Why I Chose to Become a Breakup and Divorce Coach

If someone had told me a few years ago that I’d one day be training to help people through breakups and divorces, I’m not sure I would’ve believed them. Like many people, I thought I had already been through my biggest heartbreak. I’d gone through a divorce, learned how to co-parent (amicably—most of the time), and had slowly rebuilt my life. I thought I had come out the other side.

Then I met who I believed was the love of my life.

He felt like “my last ever first kiss.” Within three months, we were engaged. A year later, we were married. I truly believed I’d found my forever.

But forever didn’t look the way I imagined. My husband’s long-dormant addiction to alcohol and drugs resurfaced, and with it came fear, emotional abuse, narcissism, and even violence. Everything I thought we had—trust, love, safety—disappeared. I lost myself in the chaos.

The breakdown of our relationship broke me.

I found myself in therapy, on antidepressants, off work with anxiety, unable to sleep or eat. I was grieving not just the loss of a relationship, but the version of myself I had to leave behind to survive.

And yet, through the pain, something shifted.
Bit by bit, I started making small changes.
With the unwavering support of my family and friends, I began to rebuild.

I didn’t go back to who I was before—I became someone stronger, more grounded, and deeply compassionate. I had lived the kind of pain that doesn’t just bruise—it transforms. And through that transformation, I found my purpose.

Why Breakup and Divorce Coaching?

Because I know what it’s like to feel completely lost after the end of a relationship.
I know what it’s like to question your worth, your sanity, and your future.
And I also know that it’s possible to come out the other side—not just healed, but empowered.

That’s why I chose this path.

I’m now a certified breakup and divorce coach, so I can support others as they navigate their own heartaches. Coaching is about guiding people through the fog of grief, anger, fear, and confusion—toward clarity, confidence, and healing. It’s not about “getting over it.” It’s about getting through it, with strength, self-respect, and a renewed sense of identity.

This Isn’t Just Work—It’s Personal

I don’t come to this role with just a textbook. I come with lived experience.

I’ve cried those tears. I’ve rebuilt that life.

Now, I want to help others do the same—not alone, not ashamed, and not afraid.

If you’re in the midst of a breakup or divorce—or trying to put the pieces back together afterward—I see you. I’ve been you. And I’m here to walk beside you as your coach.

Because heartbreak doesn’t have to be the end. Sometimes, it’s the beginning of becoming everything you were always meant to be.